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Narcissistic Smear Campaign: How to Respond & Reclaim Your Truth After Narcissistic Abuse

A narcissistic smear campaign can flip your world upside down—especially when it affects your work, friendships, family life, or support systems. In this blog, we’ll look at how these campaigns unfold, how to stay grounded in your truth, and when to consider legal action like defamation lawsuits or restraining orders. Rebuilding your reputation starts with knowing you're not alone—and you don’t have to stay silent.

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The Strengths of the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style (As Told by a Attachment-Focused Chicago Therapist)

Dismissive avoidant attachment is often misunderstood—it’s not all emotional unavailability and distance. People with this style are often incredibly independent, focused, and calm under pressure. They tend to handle change well, enjoy time alone, and self-regulate in creative (if imperfect) ways. These strengths can be powerful assets when paired with self-awareness and therapy. Let’s reframe the narrative and appreciate what dismissive avoidants bring to the table.

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Attachment Style Therapy: Why Attachment Theory is the Key to Understanding Yourself and Your Relationships

Attachment theory and attachment style therapy helps us understand why we repeat the same relational patterns, feel triggered by certain things, or struggle inside of our relationships. These aren’t just unique quirks—these behaviors are rooted in early attachment wounding. By exploring your attachment style and core beliefs, therapy can be helpful in reconnecting you with your values and a life you want.

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How to Break a Trauma Bond After Narcissistic Abuse: Why It Takes Time (and What Will Really Help)

Breaking a trauma bond after narcissistic abuse takes time. Learn from a Chicago narcissistic abuse recovery therapist how EMDR and parts work can help you heal deeply and let go for good.

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Getting Back with a Dismissive Avoidant Partner: What You Need to Know

Getting back with a dismissive avoidant partner? Here's why the reunion feels so good—and why it often ends the same painful way. Learn more from a licensed therapist in Chicago, Illinois, who specializes in attachment styles.

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Can Virtual EMDR Therapy Really Work? What the Research Is Actually Showing Us

Does EMDR therapy work online? Learn how virtual EMDR helps trauma, anxiety, and narcissistic abuse, from a licensed Illinois therapist

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What is EMDR for Narcissistic Abuse? | Chicago Trauma Therapist Explains

Struggling to heal after narcissistic abuse? EMDR therapy in Chicago can help process painful trauma and let you feel like yourself again.

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3 Lesser-Known Dismissive Avoidant Personality Traits

Dismissive avoidants work hard to avoid emotions, intellectualize feelings, and are both drawn to and fearful of emotionally intense people.

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Who Is The Phantom Ex: The Ever-Present Ghost in Narcissistic Relationships

The phantom ex haunts insecurely attached and narcissistic relationships, fueling comparison, insecurity, and emotional unavailability.

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The Dismissive Avoidant & Fearful Avoidant Relationship: Why This Attachment Style Pairing Feels Impossible & Tends to End In Heartbreak

Understand the dismissive avoidant & fearful avoidant relationship dynamic. This is the most painful, heart-breaking attachment pairing.

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Narcissistic Relationships: Common Communication Challenges (Spoiler Alert – It’s Not You That’s Making It Difficult)

Communicating with a narcissist can leave you feeling confused and unheard. Learn why—and how to reclaim your voice.

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Why Sex with a Narcissist Feels So Addictive—And How to Break Free

Sex with a narcissist can feel intoxicating, but is it real intimacy or a cycle of manipulation? Learn why it feels addictive—and how to bre

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Finding Narcissistic Abuse Therapy Near Me: Resource List | Two Lights Therapy Center PLLC | Chicago, Illinois

Struggling to find a therapist for narcissistic abuse in your state? Explore top directories & expert tips for finding the right support.

Therapists for Narcissistic Abuse: 4 Red Flags to Watch For

Not all therapists understand narcissistic abuse. Watch for these 4 red flags to ensure your therapist is truly trauma-informed.

Expanding On Our Narcissistic Abuse & Narcissistic Tendencies FAQ’s | Two Lights Therapy Center | Chicago, Illinois

Wondering if our specialized treatment is right for you? We expanded on our FAQs about narcissistic abuse therapy and more.

Why, as a Narcissistic Abuse Therapist, My Top Priority Is NOT Reducing Your Anxiety Without First Exploring It

Your anxiety after narcissistic abuse isn’t the problem—it’s a message. Healing starts by listening to it, not silencing it.

Chicago Narcissistic Abuse Therapist: Does It Matter If They Are a Narcissist?

Chicago narcissistic abuse therapist explains how patterns, not labels, define toxic relationships and healing from narcissistic abuse.

2 Counterintuitive Ways to Begin Healing After Narcissistic Abuse or Antagonistic Relational Stress

Healing from narcissistic abuse requires self-compassion. Learn to embrace your emotions and take the time you need to recover fully.

Therapy for Narcissism (NPD): How a Therapist Can Help Heal and Transform

Therapy for narcissism offers a judgment-free space to heal and grow. Through therapy & lowered pressures, transformation becomes possible.

Part 2: How a Trauma Bond Forms & Progresses (Through a Simplified Neuroscience Lens)

Uncover the neuroscience behind a trauma bond. Explore how narcissistic abuse fuels emotional dependency through neurochemical changes.

The Simplified Neuroscience of Trauma Bonds: How Narcissistic Abuse Can Hijack Your Brain (Part 1)

The neuroscience of trauma bonds reveals how narcissistic abuse hijacks your brain via a neurochemical con-job, making distance unbearable.

How to Heal After Narcissistic Abuse: Steps for Recovery and Self-Empowerment

Healing from narcissistic abuse means stabilization, breaking cycles, & growth. Reclaim your identity and thrive. #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery

A Word With Erika (Part 1): Chicago Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapist & Therapist for Narcissistic Personality Styles

Hear from Two Lights Therapy Center's founder, Erika Koch-Weser, who specializes in narcissism, narcissistic personalities & abuse recovery.

Help Towards Healing: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapist or Coach?

Learn the key differences between a therapist & coach to find the right support for your healing during narcissistic abuse recovery therapy.

A Letter to Healing Survivors in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

You did your best with what you knew. Your vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. Healing takes time—be patient & gentle with yourself

The Lingering Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse: Finding Healing Through Grief and Empowerment

Healing from narcissistic abuse means grieving without shame, breaking the trauma bond, and reclaiming your life one small step at a time.

Understanding the Effects of Narcissism: What Trauma-Bonding Is & What It Isn’t in Narcissistic Abuse

Discover the science behind trauma-bonding in narcissistic abuse and why it’s so hard to break free from the emotional rollercoaster.

Narcissistic Abuse: The Less Obvious, More Coercive Kinds of Love-Bombing and Their Impact on Your Mental Well-Being & Future Healing

Discover the hidden forms of love-bombing in narcissistic abuse and how they impact your mental well-being and healing process.

2 Reasons Why Individuals with Narcissistic Personality Traits (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) CAN Benefit From Mental Health Therapy

Can therapy actually help someone if they have narcissistic personality disorder?

Road to Recovery– 3 Tips: “How Do I Find a Qualified Narcissistic Abuse Specialist for Therapy Near Me?”

"I'm not in Illinois! How Do I Find Another Qualified Narcissistic Abuse Therapist Near Me?"

3 Ways That Trauma-Informed Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapy is Different Than Traditional Talk Therapy

Should I see a narcissism specialist or generalist therapist?

3 Ways to Distinguish Between A Narcissistic Personality Style and A Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

Dismissive Avoidant Attachment or Narcissistic Personality? It can sometimes be hard to tell.

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At Two Lights Therapy Center, we find purpose in working exclusively with individuals who are seeking therapy & support for relationships characterized by coercive control, narcissistic abuse & antagonistic relational stress. We also offer treatment for folks with narcissistic personality styles, as well as individuals with attachment and codependency challenges. Narcissistic abuse treatment telehealth therapy services are available for all of Chicago & Illinois.

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The information provided in these blog posts is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional therapy or therapeutic services. Readers should not use this content as a replacement for individualized advice or treatment. If you are experiencing a crisis or need immediate assistance, please call 911 or contact other emergency services in your area.