Erika Koch-Weser founded Two Lights Therapy Center in Chicago, Illinois with a mission to address the critical gap in care for individuals impacted by narcissism & narcissistic abuse. Recognizing the scarcity of specialized support in this area, Erika dedicated her practice to providing compassionate, expert guidance to help clients navigate their healing journey and reclaim their sense of self.
Specialized & thoughtful care from a narcissistic abuse therapist.
Erika holds advanced training in narcissistic abuse recovery and has completed Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (NATC) Training with Dr. Ramani Durvasula, the leading expert on narcissistic personality styles & narcissistic abuse recovery treatment. Erika also works with those who are challenged by their own narcissistic personality style or narcissistic traits, helping clients to better manage their tendencies & relationships.
Helping you towards healing
Expert Care with a Personal Touch
Erika Koch-Weser is a recognized specialist in narcissistic and antagonistic personality dynamics and high-conflict relationships. She provides somatic and attachment-focused care for individuals navigating emotionally volatile relationships, trauma bonds, and chronic relational stress.
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Erika offers a therapeutic space defined by emotional attunement, psychological safety, and relational depth. At Two Lights Therapy Center, complexity is welcomed rather than avoided. Clients are encouraged to engage honestly and thoughtfully with their internal experiences, without fear of judgment or minimization.
Many clients come to Erika after feeling stuck or misunderstood in prior therapeutic experiences, particularly in the context of complex relational dynamics. Her work is guided by the understanding that many patterns labeled as “pathology” reflect adaptive nervous system responses to attachment disruption and are best met with curiosity rather than judgment. This orientation creates the conditions for clarity and change without urgency, oversimplification, or blame.​​​
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​Whether working with individuals recovering from narcissistic abuse, couples navigating high-conflict dynamics, or clients with narcissistic or antagonistic personality styles, Erika meets clients with steadiness, compassion, and respect for the pace at which real change occurs. Goals and growth are approached with intention, respecting the nervous system’s true capacity and prioritizing long-term integration.
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Erika completed her undergraduate and graduate training at the University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign. Her work is further shaped by advanced, ongoing training in her specialization. This commitment to continued education allows her clinical work to remain current, nuanced, and responsive to the complexity of the cases she treats.
LCSW
LICENSED PSYCHOTHERPIST
Ensuring an ethical approach.
NATC
NARCISSISM EXPERT
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Certified Treatment Clinician
PEL
PROFESSIONAL EDUCATOR
Works with children & families.
UIUC
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Proud U of I Alumni
GRADUATE
"There is no better feeling than watching the growth of my clients" - Erika
Small Case Loads
At Two Lights Therapy, we maintain small caseloads, consistently investing time between sessions to further research and reflect on the best treatment options for your unique case.
We conduct non-traditional intakes. At Two Lights Therapy Center, we have developed a unique intake process that centers our clients, balancing the collection of vital history whilst leaving space and time for your story.
Non-Traditional Intakes
Continuing Education
Continuing education is a priority and not simply completed as a means to meet licensing standards. We set aside time weekly to stay up to date on best practices & new innovations & developments in treatment.
TWO LIGHTS THERAPY CENTER
Explore What Erika Prioritizes
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AUTHENTICITY
"It can be difficult (& scary) to show up authentically when first starting therapy. That said, I want every one of my clients to know they can be their truest selves without fear of judgment in this space. That may take a while (& that's okay), but I'm always ready to really meet you."
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CLINICAL EXCELLENCE
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"All clients deserve consistent, high-quality mental health services. I prioritize depth over quick fixes and work hard to incorporate the most up-to-date interventions whenever possible. If my services don't feel like the right fit for you, we will work together to find you a great match."
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INCLUSIVITY​
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"This is a space for diverse identities, experiences, and worldviews. I approach each client's treatment with humility & curiosity. I work with and welcome clients from all backgrounds, and I am deeply committed to providing culturally sensitive and inclusive care."
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RELATIONAL SAFETY​
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"There is nothing more important than a therapeutic environment that feels safe, consistent, and attuned. If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, you may struggle with trust. I prioritize creating a space where you shouldn't have to second-guess yourself—a space where your reality is never denied, your boundaries are respected, and your story feels heard/understood."
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HONESTY & HUMOR​
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"I bring warmth, honesty, and a sense of humor into our work, making it clear you can be your full, unfiltered self. Laughter can sometimes be just as healing as deep reflection, and I believe we can often balance both while respecting & honoring the seriousness of what you're navigating."
ALL ARE WELCOME HERE
"In my work, I’ve intentionally moved away from models that stigmatize Cluster B personality disorders. At the same time, I continue to stand as an ally for all survivors of abuse, including those deeply affected by the transgenerational transmission of trauma. Oftentimes, these trauma-related attachment challenges manifest as certain Cluster B tendencies.
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We can end this cycle with connection, acceptance, and hard work. True understanding exists beyond black-and-white thinking. Almost everything is an intricate spectrum. Honoring the complexity of human experience means holding space for both accountability and compassion."
Endorsement
"Erika is an incredibly skilled and proficient clinician."
"She has a deft understanding and approach with antagonistic relational distress, and I'd recommend her to anyone in Illinois looking to begin their healing journey."
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​​- Madeline Becker, LPC
