EMDR for dismissive avoidant attachment offers a powerful way to process without feeling pressured to talk through every emotion. Because EMDR works through the nervous system, you only need to share a “headline” of what you’re experiencing and not every single detail. This allows avoidant clients to expand emotional capacity and vulnerability at a pace that feels safe to them.

Attachment styles are not diagnoses. They are adaptive patterns shaped by early experiences. While some argue that attachment language oversimplifies complex relational patterns and dynamics, the reality is that these frameworks offer clarity, accessibility, and a compassionate starting point for healing. At Two Lights Therapy Center in Chicago, we use attachment theory alongside somatic and attachment-focused EMDR to support clients in developing earned secure attachment.

At Two Lights Therapy Center in Chicago, we believe nearly every emotional struggle has one thing in common: attachment trauma. Whether you’re healing from narcissistic abuse, chronic anxiety, or painful relationship patterns, our attachment-focused EMDR approach helps you address the root and not just the symptoms.

Narcissistic abuse and partial reward schedules go hand in hand. The mix of unpredictable affection, dopamine spikes, and stress-relief cycles makes toxic love feel like destiny—but neuroscience shows it’s a pattern you can break.

Anxious-preoccupied attachment is often misunderstood and, too often, mocked. Behind the fear of being “too much” is deep self-abandonment and vulnerability to narcissistic abuse. If you find yourself overgiving, second-guessing your worth, or chasing love that hurts, it’s time to come home to yourself. Two Lights Therapy Center offers support for individuals with anxious-preoccupied attachment styles and narcissistic abuse recovery in Chicago.

Thinking about couples therapy for narcissistic abuse in Chicago? In most cases, it’s not the safest or most effective path (and can even be harmful without the right precautions). But in very select situations, with a specialist and a clear harm reduction approach, couples therapy may help clarify relational realities or reduce further harm. Learn more about when it’s appropriate and when it’s not (in this blog!).

Wondering if you’re dealing with a narcissist or fearful avoidant? While they can look similar on the surface—hot-and-cold behavior, emotional withdrawal, or hypersensitivity—their core motivations are different. This blog breaks down how to tell the difference, how attachment wounds can mimic narcissism, and what it really takes to navigate conflict with a fearful-avoidant partner.

Searching for a narcissistic abuse support group in Chicago? Whether you’re craving community or trying to break free from a trauma bond, this guide explores the benefits of group support & how individual trauma therapy for narcissistic abuse might offer additional benefits.