EMDR Therapy for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Relational Trauma | Understanding the AIP Model | Chicago, IL
- Two Lights Therapy | Chicago Narcissistic Abuse Therapists
- Apr 30
- 3 min read
What Is EMDR Therapy for Narcissistic Abuse?
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a research-backed method of psychotherapy that can help clients process past traumatic experiences. “Is that the therapy where you move your eyes back & forth, or something?” Yes—EMDR involves much less talking than traditional therapy and instead uses guided eye movements that help the brain integrate traumatic memories that were never processed correctly. In my practice, I use a nifty light bar!
This approach can be particularly effective for those recovering from PTSD, narcissistic abuse, and other kinds of relational trauma (antagonistic relational stress), where the unintegrated memories are often deep and complicated. Personally, I think of EMDR more like a medical procedure, given how precise, scripted, and structured it is (not in a scary way, though!). We’re not just talking things through—we’re actively rewiring your brain together. Weeeeeee!
Understanding the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) Model
At the heart of EMDR therapy lies the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model, a framework that explains how the brain processes, integrates, and stores information (our memories). According to the AIP model, traumatic memories and sensations can become "stuck" and “stay hot” in the brain's memory networks. Because our brains aren’t always great at knowing when exactly a threat or traumatic experience occurred, these “stuck” memories can lead to persistent anxiety and other symptoms (including many physical sensations).
The unintegrated trauma can influence current beliefs, perceptions, and behaviors, making us feel almost haunted...and stuck in the past. EMDR therapy aims to activate the brain's innate ability to process and integrate these distressing memories. By installing updated, adaptive beliefs, we can begin to alleviate symptoms and encourage our evolution.
EMDR for Narcissistic Abuse & Relational Trauma Recovery
Narcissistic abuse and relational trauma are marked by patterns of manipulation and minimization, which can create some deep psychological scars, but healing is really possible! EMDR therapy, guided by that AIP model (discussed above), offers a structured, targeted approach to examine these pain points by:
Identifying & targeting specific traumatic memories associated with the abuse
Reprocessing these memories to reduce their emotional charge & impact on functioning
Replacing negative beliefs (e.g., "I am too much") with positive, empowering ones
Enhancing emotional regulation skills & self-awareness
EMDR can be a life-changing approach for many, helping them to honor and move past their traumatic experiences. This typically allows clients to feel more at ease when working towards developing new, healthy relationships and practicing self-forgiveness/compassion.
Integrating the S.A.F.E. EMDR Approach
In my work, I use the S.A.F.E. EMDR approach (Somatic and Attachment-Focused EMDR), which takes into account (in just a slightly different way) the body’s cues, attachment trauma histories, and other relational dynamics that often surface in trauma recovery. Unlike some other therapeutic models, S.A.F.E. EMDR places significant emphasis on real-time nervous system regulation, present-moment safety, and the therapeutic relationship as key ingredients in healing. This approach can be especially valuable for those recovering from narcissistic abuse, where early attachment wounds and chronic invalidation (sometimes lifelong) can make emotional safety and trust difficult to access. By honoring the body’s pace and helping clients build a stronger sense of internal and relational safety, S.A.F.E. EMDR supports deep integration.
EMDR Therapy in Chicago, IL
EMDR therapy can be a really transformative option for some. If you're in the Chicago area and seeking support for narcissistic abuse or relational trauma, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Working with a trained EMDR therapist can be well worth a try if other kinds of therapy have felt less effective (or maybe you’re just ready to add something new to your toolbox!). If you’re skeptical—that’s okay too! Spoiler alert: I was VERY skeptical about EMDR for the longest time, but I have now seen the impact it can have with my very own eyes. :)
Want to learn more about virtual EMDR therapy? I specialize in helping clients recover from narcissistic abuse by integrating EMDR into therapy when appropriate. Learn more about the various services I offer at my practice, Two Lights Therapy Center:
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